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Covid, it is a word that has shaped all our lives. It made in-person gatherings harder to accomplish;.it has changed many aspects of our lives – how we work, how we socialize, and for those involved in kink, how we find and use community. For many, covid has led to feelings of isolation. Social networkContinue reading “Kink in the Time of Covid: Maximizing the Online Experience”
As I walk through the door, I’m surprised to already find you there, still dressed in charcoal grey suit pants and a white blouse. I pause for a moment and take in the sight of you. For some reason just that feeling, the ability to look at you and just breath in the moment feelsContinue reading “You’re like coming home: An erotic story of emotional surrender”
Fun fact: tasks aren’t just for submissives. I may be a dominant but three task lists govern a large part of my daily life. The first two are straightforward and unsurprising: personal life and work. The third is a task list devoted entirely to Haven – an online femdom community of which I am veryContinue reading “Why I Do It: Haven and Kink Community”
Orgasm control is a significant part of the kink landscape, and in FLR and Femdom, something one encounters on a regular basis. From the dominating Mistress who keeps your cock under lock and key, to the teasing Domme who says no and then giggles about it, the examples abound. The idea of not being ableContinue reading “The Big Bad Orgasm Monster”
Boom. You hear the gun and the race is off, it isn’t a sprint, but a marathon. A race of patience, determination, and grit. The runners are clustered together. Protocol – the rules and expectations developed in a dynamic. Essentially they are the rules of the race, the course you are expected to run. IContinue reading “High Protocol and the Marathon of Staying Focused”
I’ve been standing on the edge of the kink pool for a long time. Afraid of making a wrong move or saying the wrong thing. Afraid of making a mistake. That’s been my MO since my very first memory. I’d rather stand back, observe, and figure out where I stand before making a move. MyContinue reading “Learning to Leap: Jumping into Kink”
“Fuck.” There really wasn’t anything else to say. He slammed his hand down on the button to kill the engines. It had no effect because his ship was already caught in the tractor beam and had been slowly moving backwards anyway. He had never really stood a chance against the monsterous machine that was currentlyContinue reading “Captive – An Erotic Story”
Vetting people and partners in the context of BDSM is not something with which I have much experience. As a closeted submissive who explores his desires and kinks almost entirely online, I have a lot more experience assessing virtual communities than potential partners. Like evaluating partnerships, however, ruling out communities is so much easier thanContinue reading “Vetting for People-First: Domme-submissive Minority Communities”
“I’m a service submissive.” I’ve heard many subs show up and wear it like a badge of honor – I’m a service submissive, I just want to do stuff for you, to clean and cook. And I can respect that, I have a helpful personality. It feels to me like a way to show devotion,Continue reading “Service Orientated or Service Submission? Cleaning up a mess (of thoughts)”
I am a submissive male, who has an intense desire to dress in women’s clothing (on occasion). Crossdressing is a secret desire of mine. When dressed, I feel at peace; I feel happy. It is an urge I cannot suppress. I have tried to hide it, forget it, but my desire won’t go away. SinceContinue reading “The Draw of Feminization”